Medical people I know tell me that when they have to actually give the family the news they don’t use euphemisms. No ‘they passed,’ or ‘they are in a better place.’ “They died.” You have to be blunt with really shocking news.
It’s hard, but yeah, it can be really, really hard for the person you’re conversing with to not believe the best option (even if zany) about whatever you say. So if you say someone ‘passed’ they will almost immediately chuckle thinking it’s about passing gas or stool, or that they’ve been moved to post-op for ‘they are in a better place.’
It also lets you squirt out of there quicker, which is a really, really bad way to think about it, but every time I’ve tried to soften the blow it ends up being more of a ‘grab the bacon while crying’ day rather than a ‘turn to family and hold onto them’ day.
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Medical people I know tell me that when they have to actually give the family the news they don’t use euphemisms. No ‘they passed,’ or ‘they are in a better place.’ “They died.” You have to be blunt with really shocking news.
It’s hard, but yeah, it can be really, really hard for the person you’re conversing with to not believe the best option (even if zany) about whatever you say. So if you say someone ‘passed’ they will almost immediately chuckle thinking it’s about passing gas or stool, or that they’ve been moved to post-op for ‘they are in a better place.’
It also lets you squirt out of there quicker, which is a really, really bad way to think about it, but every time I’ve tried to soften the blow it ends up being more of a ‘grab the bacon while crying’ day rather than a ‘turn to family and hold onto them’ day.