I (a man with a penis) recently had my first time penetrating a vagina. I found it quite underwhelming, the sensations were there, I didn’t really struggle to orgasm (though the only position were I was able to get there was missionary where I control everything), but still I was disappointed by the sensations being 10 times weaker than what I feel by myself with a toy.

This didn’t make it a bad experience on the contrary. But the most fun part for me clearly was not the stimulation but rather the feeling of caressing her skin and her desire for me.

Am I the only one having such an experience?

  • not_main@fedinsfw.appOPEnglish
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    13 days ago

    The time it took was not a stress factor for me, as we were both clearly enjoying the moment, It’s just that she did not seem to be into starting slowly. This was not planned and it’s very unlikely to happen again with this woman, so we did not have anything to help besides our bodies and 2 condoms 😅

    I learned a lot about myself and I think I learned a thing or 2 that will apply to other women in the future. For sure my ex girlfriend was very different (due to health issues it never got beyond the hands) so I know generalizing over every woman is to be avoided.

    Thank you for the valuable advice!

    • Pm_us_kinky_comments@fedinsfw.appEnglish
      9·
      12 days ago

      We forgot to add, but the simple fact that you took time to question your feelings, and ask questions here, already shows a very positive attitude towards sexual exploration that will no doubt serve you well with any future partners of any gender :)

      • not_main@fedinsfw.appOPEnglish
        8·
        12 days ago

        I’m also planning on talking about it with some friends next time we get the chance.

        And to be honest I did two things that helped me a lot, I listened to a lot of les couilles sur la table and le cœur sur la table, two very good French feminist podcast that really helped me be a better person overall but also have a healthy attitude towards sexuality and I had the good idea to watch some fingering tutorials and I was able have some idea what women overall tend to like (curve the fingers up, and never stop focusing on the clitoris outside).

        My partner at the end told me “hey it was your first time but you did very well not to just stop when you came most men don’t do that”. Well, thank feminist podcasts for that one 😂.