I (a man with a penis) recently had my first time penetrating a vagina. I found it quite underwhelming, the sensations were there, I didn’t really struggle to orgasm (though the only position were I was able to get there was missionary where I control everything), but still I was disappointed by the sensations being 10 times weaker than what I feel by myself with a toy.
This didn’t make it a bad experience on the contrary. But the most fun part for me clearly was not the stimulation but rather the feeling of caressing her skin and her desire for me.
Am I the only one having such an experience?
This is a completely normal thing. Sex with a partner is vastly different from sex with a toy. The toy is designed for fast, intense gratification, while when you’re with a person, you should be focusing not just on the physical sensations but on the connection your and your partner’s bodies and minds have with each other during the act. It also seems like you’re really accustomed to controlling your own pace instead of having someone else do it, which is often the case when you’ve spent a long time masturbating and tailoring your own masturbation experience over time; your experience with sex with a person for the first time will be largely shaped by your history of solitary sexual experience up to that point, so lots of jerking it exactly the way you want it while focusing on getting the most intense orgasm possible each time will shape your expectations for sex towards that goal, so it can feel disappointing when it’s not like that.