Sex Question Friday: Why Are So Many Straight Men Into Transsexual Porn? - Sex and Psychology
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Every Friday on the blog, I answer people’s questions about sex, love, and relationships. This week’s question comes from a reader of the blog who was curious about why so many heterosexual men are pleasuring themselves to pornography featuring transgender and transsexual performers.I run a porn blog and I keep getting messages from men wanting to see tranny / shemale porn. I'm assuming these men are all straight-identifying, but maybe that's just my gay-identifying bias. I'm wondering what, if any studies or knowledge is out there about men who are attracted to and watch this kind of material or even look for them in real life? It does absolutely nothing for me, but this particular fetish is unavoidable if you frequent any kind of porn social network and it seems a lot of people are into this. What are your thoughts? Why might this be a turn-on for some, and what does it imply, if anything, about their sexuality?
  • yermaw@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    17·
    16 hours ago

    even if they have not accepted that about themselves

    They also may not even know. The whole thing is a political minefield and trying to join in any conversation without knowing all the words tends to trigger a massive overreaction from allies and bigots alike.

    • Snot Flickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      74·
      16 hours ago

      I mean it’s why I hate people who self apply the term “ally” because a lot of “allies” do more harm than help.

      Allyship is to be determined by those who need allies, not the people who talk big and claim to be allies while doing fuck-all.

      If someone from a minority community decides I am an ally to their cause and calls me an “ally” then I am an ally, not because I self applied a bullshit label to make myself feel better about cisgender white guilt or something.

      • southsamurai@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        5·
        7 hours ago

        I would argue that one can be a self professed ally and still be an ally, even if you did it wrong.

        Sometimes, just being willing to stand up and say “those people there? Those are my people, and I stand with them” is a powerful thing, even if the person saying it ends up being a fuckwit overall.

        So, even folks that claim alliance to an oppressed group can end up a net positive just by inflating numbers, even when their specific views and actions aren’t well considered otherwise.

        I get where you’re coming from though!