If you feel you haven’t presented your argument properly, would you go back to discuss it with that person?
Avoid arguments as 9/10 they mean nothing.
If you find yourself in an argument, or what you think is an argument, caring about winning/losing is the wrong mindset. This isn’t Debate Camp and there isn’t a trophy waiting for you. Listening, testing your knowledge and convictions, and maintaining your integrity are all much, much more important than “winning”.
If you “lose” an argument, especially if you “lost” to style, tactics, rhetorical devices, etc… then see Rule 1 above.
I just wait. They’ll eventually understand and present my “losing” position as their own.
It depends on the consequences of being wrong. If it is going to kill people, keep fighting.
Yep! Too many people get really bent out of shape over details that don’t matter.
I watched these idiots argue over the algae in the Lincoln Memorial Reflecting Pool for 10 minutes about why it’s like that. These two idiots were in their 30s and worked dead end jobs.
Avoid arguments like the plague.
Then you end up like my family where we communicate that something is wrong in ways that are so esoteric and obtuse that only a few people can tell something is wrong and they have to guess what it is.
There is a lot inbteween those two extremes.
Yeah, and sometimes an argument can help you from reaching one of them.
You can’t win an argument by being wrong. If you “lost” an argument it behooves you to at least consider the other person’s points. Two people can broth be right and still disagree.
Me, I’ve never “lost” an argument. I’ve either made myself understood or I haven’t, and at some point that’s on the other person. And I’ve either come to understand the other person’s point or I haven’t, which again at some point is on them. But being the one to change your mind isn’t losing, it’s learning.
Even if you’re right, if you don’t defend your point of view well enough, you might lose.
The person I was arguing with claimed that circumcision was a good thing because the U.S. is a country with an advanced healthcare system and circumcision is widespread there.
I couldn’t come up with a proper response; I just said it was due to Jewish influence, but that was wrong. Later, I realized that this was a cultural thing
If its something that can be let go, let go of it. If it something that is important for some reason, like someones safety or something, then bring it up with tact.
Depends on how important it was either practically or personally.
If it involves anyone’s safety or something like that, absolutely correct it ASAP!
“Hey, so remember when we were talking about BLANK? Well, I realized I may not have explained the situation properly. Here’s what I originally intended to communicate but things kind of got off track: (explanation). We need to get this addressed.”
If it’s something petty and pointless? I would be more inclined to leave it unless it comes up again for some reason.
Absolutely nothing. If it turns out that I’m right, that’s great to know. Let them think they are right and somewhere along the way, they’ll figure out they were wrong in either a okay-way or in some disaster-way.
This is the way. Also if they come back and tell you were right after all keep note that person is someone that can be trusted. As they can change their mind based on a new data/understanding and they can put their ego aside.
It really depends who it is, what the topic is, and how much of a dick they were.
As soon as you’re in an argument it’s probably a waste of time.
Only continue if it matters to a real decision.
If it’s a real decision and you have reached the point of an argument then it might be better to try to propose experiments or tests to increase the evidence base and directly address the differences of opinion.
I get to plant a custard pie in the face of my opponent. Or never let them live it down.
Take the L with grace
Depends. But usually the important thing is that you got your position out there. The opposing party won the argument, but the other listeners may have filled in the blanks and realized you had the better take even if you did not clearly express it.
In other words, truth seekers don’t worry too much about who won. They worry about what’s true.
This has happened to me quite a few times before, and aside from ppl I know really well, the answer had always been no. I’m not good at arguing/debating anyways, so I’d just go “hehe I told you so” secretly
Highly situational.
