30 something woman here, apparently I masturbate a lot compared to my friends.
I have to say “yeah once a week too” when they raise the subject ,when in fact it is multiple times a day. Husband would also do 2 times a day if he kept to his “normal” cadence. I know “whatever works for me” is right, but I’d like to compare to other people my age that aren’t my friends.
I’m intersex, and my bits don’t work, but most of the world caters to me, like grocery stores and traffic intersections and public parks. I don’t really take in a whole lot of advertising, so a lot of the sexual ads and content are something I never see.
I thought I was horny once, but that was just Rush Limbaugh dying.
Seriously though, I can’t imagine what is so interesting about sex that people would upend their homelives about it, and write 40% of all lyrical music about it. I’ve got a bit of money from not having kids, and I can pursue my photography career.
In the end though, someone explained to me that horniness is the suspension of disgust: licking someone’s mouth, eating ass, stuff like that. My disgust never gets suspended, I’m not gonna eat ass. People poop from there.
“Horniness is the suspension of disgust” is going in my quote book, fyi. It also explains some things about me and my near-constant horniness. And, I think in some ways, the stereotypical CIS male mindset in general. Thank you for this
Legendary comment.
I think the real answer to “how much masturbating is too much,” is that if your bits are chafing, it’s best to let them rest.
This is really interesting to me, I kind of feel a little sorry for you, but given that you don’t know any different, lack of sexual drive is completely normal to you it seems.
That is so alien to me. I wake up absolutely desperate to orgasm and equally desperate to make my husband ejaculate (this is my thing and really really advances me towards orgasm). When he is home (which is about 70% of the time) I make him cum every morning when we wake up and then either he makes me cum or I do, when he isn’t there, I look at porn and orgasm at least once, sometimes twice, before I get out of bed.
I have gotten out of bed without cumming about 10 or 15 times in the entire time I have been masturbating.
Don’t feel sorry for me, I’m not broken and there’s nothing to fix.
EDIT: it’s not just a lack of a sexual drive, it’s actually being repulsed by sex in addition to that.
Yes sorry, that was patronising, and not how it was meant. It is just so far from what I’ve experienced since I well, discovered my clitoris, it is difficult for me to comprehend.
No offence intended.
Oh also I should add that despite being a 41-year old virgin, I didn’t get wizard powers, because those aren’t handed out to asexual people.