Kink is more about what is considered non-normative than anything. Half of what makes a kink kinky is that it’s not something other people normally do. Nobody thinks oral sex is kinky anymore, and increasingly, bdsm and anal are being normalized to the point they are no longer kinks, whereas 30 years ago they would be considered deviant sexual behavior.
oral sex was once a kink.
Kink is more about what is considered non-normative than anything. Half of what makes a kink kinky is that it’s not something other people normally do. Nobody thinks oral sex is kinky anymore, and increasingly, bdsm and anal are being normalized to the point they are no longer kinks, whereas 30 years ago they would be considered deviant sexual behavior.