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Cake day: July 7th, 2023

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  • More of an answer to the title question, but absolutely.

    I left home at 18 to join the military, but my high school friends were still close knit. We’ve grown apart, but there are so many wild differences in the group as a whole now that we’re full fleged adults and have been for a little bit. We’re all so different now, it’s pretty wild.

    One had a kid early in her 20s and struggled to get through schooling while raising a kid and supporting her household. She found solid work and had to drop her degree to focus on that. One got into a big company and has fast tracked promotions until moving to another company for big money. Once settled into that, had kids and now is living the classic American upper middle class lifestyle. One happened upon an internship that completely changed her degree trajectory and now she’s incredibly happy in a position no one would have expected for her. I don’t know if kids are on the menu, but she’s certainly enjoying traveling for now.

    And then I’m sort of starting all over after ending a long term relationship and moving and getting a new group of friends locally and and and.

    So absolutely everyone has hugely different priorities. Maybe not as self centered as your mate’s, but life has really worked all of us into different paths.





  • The therapist I’m seeing now is big on this kind of thing. Not so much as the OP where we’re trying to feel emotions in the body, but more that we’re trying to feel the reactions and bigger emotions in the context of time. As in “How old is this part of you that feels this?”

    It’s very helpful, in my opinion, because it’s allowing me to heal parts of myself that suffered the trauma, and it’s allowing the PTSD to feel less like a jump scare and more like an understanding.









  • There’s an album for Simon and Garfunkel live at Madison square garden. I think I only really love it more than most of their other stuff because it’s the album I grew up on and it’s got all the classics. Unfortunately I couldn’t find it on Spotify, but it’s probably out there.

    It’s not an album necessarily, but there is a Portugal The Man live sort of half documentary half album that’s done acoustically. It’s awesome, I think it really highlights how eclectic they are as a group.

    Similarly, not an album, but there’s a few accoustic songs done by Manchester Orchestra in one sitting that’s on YouTube and it’s just absolutely gorgeous. It’s my favorite songs of theirs and it’s just beautiful.







  • I’m not sure if it counts as a “museum”, but the Phipps Conservatory in Pittsburgh, PA is fantastic. I went during COVID and unfortunately wasn’t able to remove my mask to smell the flowers, but even then it was stunning.

    The science museum of Minnesota in Minneapolis is also a great time. There were a ton of hands on exhibits that were super interesting. The tornado simulator was a lot of fun.

    Tacoma Glass Museum is short but a stunner. I’ve been to this one and the glass gardens in Seattle and I think the Tacoma museum wins by a decent margin. Plus there’s live demonstrations where you can watch from any angle. Very cool.