No one is going to explicitly say that, but in some communities the reaction to a son being gay is a lot harsher than to a son sexually harassing someone else.
I mean, absolutely, especially globally, there are still a lot of communities like that.
In the developed west, personally at least, I think the people who would have that attitude tend to be a bit too old (or way too old) to be having kids.
While I can’t speak to OP’s experience, that’s the kind of sentiment that publicly expressed would make employment more difficult etc.
Tbf, OP did not say that these people say this. They said that these parents are fine with the thought of it, which in many cases does very much seem to be a typical line of thought within certain communities.
Historically, women are a lot more often told to not act/dress like ‘sluts’ (framing the harassment they endure as their own fault for presenting themselves in a provocative way) than men are told to control themselves enough to not harass random women and girls just because they can.
They bring up a valid point about double standards and skewed views imo
It’s about a real problem absolutely, and a problem that is worthy of discussion but just this thought process rings so false (at least, among the priviliged western users whom I think make up a large percentage of us.)
I can agree if you take it at its most literal. I was thinking op didn’t believe people think that exact sequence of words tho, so much as similar, but softer, sequences over much longer periods of time. Like, a person thinking “I’m glad my son is a serial predator instead of gay” is almost definitely not happening anywhere, but thinking about the various factors that play into this kind of predation as the, unfortunately, often highly normalized things that they are, is happening in just about every corner of the earth.
Their phrasing wasn’t ideal, but what they’re expressing is, in my mind at least, very hard to argue in good faith as false.
When have you ever heard someone say they’d be fine with their son being a harasser?
No one is going to explicitly say that, but in some communities the reaction to a son being gay is a lot harsher than to a son sexually harassing someone else.
I mean, absolutely, especially globally, there are still a lot of communities like that.
In the developed west, personally at least, I think the people who would have that attitude tend to be a bit too old (or way too old) to be having kids.
While I can’t speak to OP’s experience, that’s the kind of sentiment that publicly expressed would make employment more difficult etc.
Tbf, OP did not say that these people say this. They said that these parents are fine with the thought of it, which in many cases does very much seem to be a typical line of thought within certain communities.
Historically, women are a lot more often told to not act/dress like ‘sluts’ (framing the harassment they endure as their own fault for presenting themselves in a provocative way) than men are told to control themselves enough to not harass random women and girls just because they can.
They bring up a valid point about double standards and skewed views imo
It’s about a real problem absolutely, and a problem that is worthy of discussion but just this thought process rings so false (at least, among the priviliged western users whom I think make up a large percentage of us.)
I can agree if you take it at its most literal. I was thinking op didn’t believe people think that exact sequence of words tho, so much as similar, but softer, sequences over much longer periods of time. Like, a person thinking “I’m glad my son is a serial predator instead of gay” is almost definitely not happening anywhere, but thinking about the various factors that play into this kind of predation as the, unfortunately, often highly normalized things that they are, is happening in just about every corner of the earth.
Their phrasing wasn’t ideal, but what they’re expressing is, in my mind at least, very hard to argue in good faith as false.
It was revealed to them in a dream.
I hear my parents saying “No, let him be” when he gets touchy-feely with their daughter, who got harassed on school by a boy before.
Not sure generalizing based on your parents is legit.
Admittedly, “Y’all ever stopped to notice on how my parents fear…” doesn’t sound quite the same.