So I’ve been wanting a little walking buddy lately. Probably a shih tsu mix or something. Something small that has a good personality and is available at the shelter. I’ve never had a dog myself before though and I had a couple of bad experiences with large off leash dogs when I was a small kid (I don’t think I was hurt but I very much do remember being chased and being very afraid) so I find myself still a little nervous around larger dogs I don’t know, especially if that dog is feeling excited or jumpy. A couple of gentler breeds are excepted in my head (golden and labs) and once I get used to a particular dog, I’m perfectly fine. I can leave other situations just fine by myself but I’m here asking for opinions from more experienced dog people. I suppose I’m afraid that having a dog myself would be like a magnet for other dogs while on walks that I might be uncomfortable with or that my being nervous could make a normal meet and greet go poorly. I just don’t want to adopt a dog and wind up putting it in a bad situation by accident. It’s also super common that I see escaped dogs when I’m out for walks by myself and others who walk their dogs without a leash.
Also, to say out loud, I am addressing my dog fears in therapy. It’s just not an instant cure, you know? It’s also possible I am way over thinking this.
While usually I’d encourage looking at rescue dogs maybe this is a scenario to be very careful with that. We got a rescue that had been traumatized and can still be challenging at times. While she’s a real sweetheart, she’s definitely not a starter dog.
Go voltuneer at a shelter and walk dogs for them first. I don’t think you’ve considered how much work is involved in a dog, are you prepared to adopt a small child?
This is a great idea imo. As someone who has spent a lot of time volunteering at a shelter you can definitely learn a lot. Especially if they have some actual professionals on staff willing to share their wisdom.
Having a dog on a walk will absolutely increase the likelihood of a stray happening by to approach you though. Not saying that to scare you off or anything, but I think volunteering at the shelter will make you more confident around dogs, hopefully.
Thanks. That’s been on my mind a little, I just haven’t gotten in touch with them yet. I’ve done pet sitting for a friend who travels a lot before so I’ve cared for dogs I was already familiar with but I did get to hand them back over at the end and there wasn’t any walking or interacting with other dogs involved.
I think this is a good answer. It’s a good way to find out if owning a dog is really for you.
If you get a small dog, do not use the small size as a justification for not training your dog. That is absolutely my biggest pet peeve with small dog owners.
Anecdotal evidence being what it is, trends have smaller dogs being more prone to biting – small dog syndrome. Bigger dogs can be dicks if they’re raised poorly, but are less prone to bite.
I’ll be the anecdotes for that …… spent my whole life with dogs of all sizes and have always been comfortable with them. But the only one that bit was a mini poodle
Then again, as the other guy said, I’ve always paid more attention to dogs that can do damage, vs the mini poodle bit me when I was ignoring it. Of course the most painful part of that was the tetanus shot
I think this has everything to do with owners and not taking the bites of small dogs seriously. Also dachshunds skew that statistic WILDLY as they account for 30% of bites to strangers across all breeds… as a dachshund owner I can tell you people see those little stubby legs and their common sense goes out the window, thankfully my dogs are nice but I know many a weary dachshund who would bite you if you came in too fast
Don’t assume smaller means safer. When I was volunteering at a shelter regularly, everyone there agreed that small dogs were more likely to attack than big ones.
I’ve been bitten thrice in my life. Once by a bigger dog, stressed out of his mind, which I kind of understand, and twice by small dogs who were just assholes.
Yes, my dog has the most issues with small dogs because they are often poorly trained and socialized and tend to mis-read her play invite as an attack. It sucks because I basically have to prevent her from going near them now, but on occasional there is a small dog who is chill and she loves playing with them.
Thanks. This is precisely the sort of stuff I wanted to hear in asking this question
Small dogs often feel intimidated and react to that with fear and aggression. They need good, strong training from owners who exude calm and provide reassuring safety around larger dogs if they’re not to live up to the stereotype of yappy snarly little anxious furballs of anger.
Having a dog is a magnet for other dogs on walks. They often want to say hi to each other, sometimes they’re dicks about it.
I have a small dog and it’s a bunch of work. He barks when left alone for too long, needs a walk twice a day. Food, water, vet, meds and I’ll eventually have to get him put down. I like my dog, I’m happy to give him a good life, I’m not planning on getting another.
I’m in the same boat. I have a medium -big dog and I’ve had him for a third of my life. He is my most precious friend and I absolutely treasure him.
But I’m never getting another dog. Not because he’s going to break my heart when he leaves, but because of how much work and money goes into owning a dog.
You aren’t over thinking it. For the reason(s) you stated, I would recommend against getting a dog right now until the underlying concerns are addressed.
Hopefully you will never have to experience a traumatic situation involving a larger dog, but if you do and you aren’t prepared, then you are at much higher risk of putting yourself or your companion animal in harm’s way or even making the situation worse than it would have been.
I’m a small dog owner. More than once I’ve had to kick or punch an out of control dog to keep my small dog safe. Running to safety is not always an option, and you cannot outrun a crazed monster singularly focused on murder when you’ve got to grab your dog first and/or carry it while running.
Honestly, a lot of pet owners are just plain terrible. The fact that you’re at least putting thought into this puts you orders of magnitude higher than sooooo many other potential pet owners. Unfortunately, those shitty owners seem to be everywhere.
Funny, the only dogs I had to protect my bigger dogs from were small ones. Over here they’re almost all not socialized, not trained, not able to behave like a normal dog. There are of course exceptions.
Oh and that one crazy husky.
Dog are like kids but better and more clingy. If you want a dog you need to be ready to educate it
better and more clingy
Make up your mind
They did, and I agree with them.
I will give you my experience since it reminds of yours.
When I was about 4yrs old I was at the park with my father and sister. Someone let their pit-bull off their leash and it ran through the park. It found me. My dad had my sister on his shoulders at the time, playing, so he didn’t have much leeway during the event. The dog chased me in circles multiple times around my dad until the owners finally came. The dog never bit me, but the trauma was set. I could not be on the same sidewalk as any dog. I would force my parents to cross the street. I lived in a city, so you can imagine how annoying that was.
Fast forward a few years. My aunt was visiting in town and dropped off a surprise. A brand new puppy (in hindsight them accepting this dog was probably a gamble, but maybe they were banking on me not being afraid of a puppy). It was some kind of labrador mix that stayed really small. The dog terrified me at first, but it was a puppy and it needing us really helped me with my trauma and anxiety. I had two more dogs later in life, a shih tsu and a beagle mix. All three were great dogs. The last one came from a shelter. One thing to keep in mind is that dogs have personalities. If you are getting a dog from a shelter you’ll need to feel out who matches you.
I still have massive anxiety around large dogs, especially pit bulls or any of the Police favorite breeds. Only you will really know if you are ready, but this is just me telling you it is possible to not be afraid of smaller dogs and own one, while still being afraid of larger ones. In terms of being a dog magnet, just cross the street if you can while walking the dog.
I recommend a cockapoo or cavapoo.
Ours is 5. She loves to snuggle. She loves to play. She’s particularly good with our 2 year old nephew who was afraid of dogs, she is very gentle and patient with him (obviously we need to sit poised and ready to intervene as he can be a bit clumsy).
They also make amazing proximity alarms. If anyone so much as dares walk by the house she’s up at the window barking her little head off (mainly because she sees a friend she hasn’t met yet).
If I were you. I’d just not get a dog. Maybe its me being lazy, but don’t need to put so much effort into that. Including the therapy, u less its really affecting you regularly.
No. You want something that is convenient… dogs are not convenient. They are a responsibility, and they do not have a ‘good personalities’ or ‘bad personalities’ that is something the dog learns from you.
Way too many people adopt dogs without adopting the responsibility of being a good dog owner and the work involved in owning a dog. And when issues happen, they refuse to resolve them or confront them.
Nature and nurture both have important roles in dog behavior. I’m a shitty dog owner, because I put little effort into training my dogs to behave well. I have still had dogs that were very well behaved and those that were poorly behaved. A lot of it comes from the dog itself, and then the owner can make that dog much worse or better with deliberate effort.
I see others have mentioned it, but I’m also thinking you should have more dog exposure before committing to one. Stop by a shelter or pet store (don’t buy from a pet store) and just go look at the dogs. If you see one that seems chill, ask to take it out and hold it/play with it for a bit. If it’s too overwhelming, just give it back, go back to looking from a safe distance, and try again when you feel ready.
Stop by a shelter or pet store (don’t buy from a pet store)
Pet stores in my area exclusively stock shelter dogs with the most personality so they can facilitate adoptions (for a transaction fee). So, ‘buying’ from a pet store gets you a shelter dog.
When you go to a shelter there will absolutely be large dogs and small dogs of all temperaments, some in kennels and some free-range if they have the space. That being said, as someone else commented, perhaps try volunteering at a shelter! You can do good work and get lots of exposure to all types of dogs, and learn from experienced people how to get a read on dogs and how to handle different situations. Also, shelter dogs tend to act a little differently when they finally get a nice home environment — their personalities really come through when they get some love and stability.
I’d hold off until you actually feel comfortable handling a dog. You can volunteer at shelters or babysit a friend’s dog or something, but you’ll need to train your dog, and being afraid will make that a lot harder.
Training a dog is one part training yourself. Your dog will look to you for guidance, so it’s helpful for a professional trainer to show you how to communicate with your dog. There are private trainers, but the most affordable method is in a group with various other untrained dogs.
