What were you told about sex that turned out to be wrong? Did you use it? Did you figure it out later or already know it was wrong when they told you?

  • FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world
    43·
    6 days ago

    First thing that comes to mind is the idea that one needs to “get laid” - that you should go out and find someone, anyone, to have sex with. I disagree with that, it’s just another way to pressure people into having sex before they are ready.

    • FireRetardant@lemmy.world
      15·
      6 days ago

      I’ve been called gay by toxic men because i stand by I’d rather be with 1 woman i love than lay 100 women i don’t care about.

    • PhenomenalPancake@lemmy.worldOPM
      14·
      6 days ago

      Absolutely. Different people have different personal relationships with sex and no one should pressure anyone else into it in any way. There are no universalities to the experience of sex or lack thereof.

    • tantricgooner@fedinsfw.appEnglish
      10·
      6 days ago

      I agree, the stigma around being a virgin, especially towards men is really pervasive and has many downstream negative effects.

      In the past it was more about men using it to measure superiority over other guys but nowadays it’s almost more common to see women use it as an insult and a measure of someone’s worth. As ridiculous as it sounds to say but women also subscribe to the belief that a man who sleeps with girls is seen as good, and someone who doesn’t - bad. If you don’t get laid then it means women can sense your a bad person or something🤭 Otherwise a woman would have slept with you. You can see this with the incel thing, get into an argument online with a woman and your sexual experience is about to be questioned 🤭 So yeah the stigma around virginity and pressuring people into getting laid doesn’t seem to be going anywhere soon.