Because I had an abusive relationship when I was straight and would get constantly raped by my fiance and I never told anyone until years after it ended. My brothers kind of feel responsible so I guess this is their way of correcting a long ago wrong.
I get the impression there’s more to unpack here. Why does your brother feel responsible for something your ex did and you never told anyone about? I don’t think volunteering at a women’s shelter will solve the problem, there seems to be something more deep seated than that. I think therapy would do much more. He can still support domestic violence victims if he finds this is something he legitimately wants to do (and there are many ways of doing that).
EDIT: you mentioned he had a couple of dwi’s/dui’s… That really sounds more like something where a therapist could help. Again, if there still is a legitimate wish to support domestic violence victims, then that can be looked into then.
Ouch, I looked through a bit of stuff… This person seems to have been through some shit (to put it mildly) and is having trouble processing things. Reminds me of my lowest points when I was in an abusive situation as well as the time after. I hope things get better.
Cant hurt to call and ask but that might be a sensitive thing. Why a woman’s shelter specifically?
Because I had an abusive relationship when I was straight and would get constantly raped by my fiance and I never told anyone until years after it ended. My brothers kind of feel responsible so I guess this is their way of correcting a long ago wrong.
I get the impression there’s more to unpack here. Why does your brother feel responsible for something your ex did and you never told anyone about? I don’t think volunteering at a women’s shelter will solve the problem, there seems to be something more deep seated than that. I think therapy would do much more. He can still support domestic violence victims if he finds this is something he legitimately wants to do (and there are many ways of doing that).
EDIT: you mentioned he had a couple of dwi’s/dui’s… That really sounds more like something where a therapist could help. Again, if there still is a legitimate wish to support domestic violence victims, then that can be looked into then.
This person’s whole account is filled with bizarre stuff, really
Ouch, I looked through a bit of stuff… This person seems to have been through some shit (to put it mildly) and is having trouble processing things. Reminds me of my lowest points when I was in an abusive situation as well as the time after. I hope things get better.
A woman’s shelter is not his personal tool. Tell him to stay the fuck away from this stupid and destructive idea.
Or a less douchey version is …. While this may be well intentioned, it’s really not going to work and he needs to find another way to contribute
I think a more direct approach is necessary for someone so delusional and self-centered.