I (a man with a penis) recently had my first time penetrating a vagina. I found it quite underwhelming, the sensations were there, I didn’t really struggle to orgasm (though the only position were I was able to get there was missionary where I control everything), but still I was disappointed by the sensations being 10 times weaker than what I feel by myself with a toy.
This didn’t make it a bad experience on the contrary. But the most fun part for me clearly was not the stimulation but rather the feeling of caressing her skin and her desire for me.
Am I the only one having such an experience?
Congratulations on the new experience!
Many have said clever things already, but I felt I could contribute that sex with another person doesn’t need to be in the same category as sex with yourself. Just as cooking or shopping a gift for yourself doesn’t need to be the same as for someone else.
Typically there’s a social component, enjoying eachother and oneself with that other, there might be creative collaboration, there might be inspiration, comfort, care and/or sharing. There’s a lot to explore in doing it with other people, both nice and not. Some of it might compare, either can be bad or great, but I’d argue we’d have more joy treating them as separate and discover the intentions and possibilities that make them such.
Agreed 100%.
There’s no equivalent to the cuddling and the feeling of being wanted by the other person when alone.
It’s just not the same experience at all.