In popular culture as well as in personal stories told by many people there’s often mentions of spontaneously having sex in random places and sometimes with random people: in cars, in clubs, in bathrooms etc. But how do people do that without taking shower beforehand? Penetration is imaginable - if there’s no strong bad smell, it might be tollerable, but what about oral sex? Sounds vomit inducing.

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    People didn’t even shower daily a few hundred years ago. Hornyness makes anything possible.

    That said healthy people don’t get that bad usually.

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    9 hours ago

    I don’t know you, but for me, pussy doesn’t start tasting too bad until like 2-3 days without a wash

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    I’m honestly confused by this. People smell nice when they smell like people, it takes a couple days for people to start smelling bad.

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    Aight, as someone that used to wash dirty bodies for a living, and insists on a level of cleanliness because of that, you’re way overestimating the funk most people have in the short term.

    The typical person that’s bathing regularly (not even daily) and is changing clothing daily just isn’t going to smell that bad.

    Hell, if a person is actively sweating, they’ll smell better because sweat will flush away the stuff that makes funky smell or taste, so all you get is saltiness.

    For real, even in nursing homes with urinary incontinent patients, they didn’t stink just by virtue of being in a wet diaper for a while. A washcloth (or the equivalent) and a light scrub would remove any aroma. For an ambulatory adult using basic methods to clear residual urine, you might get the lightest hint at the end of a long day.

    Mostly, genitals just smell genital-y. A little light musk, some hints of sebum scent, and maybe the generic scent of skin. It’s far from unpleasant, even when strong enough to detect while helping someone change clothes.

    Now, I never went down on, or fucked a patient. Wouldn’t have been interested in crossing that line even if they were otherwise compatible.

    But I have gotten freaky with people after their work, after workouts, etc. The truth is that if they stink it points to something being out of whack. It’s not the default at all. A person’s diet and intake of things has way more influence on their taste and similar to their scent than just being out and about randomly.

    For real, while I do prefer such intimacy fresh out of a shower because of my history dealing with people that did have something out of whack, it’s not some kind of horrible experience otherwise. Like, it’s less unpleasant than kissing after eating roasted garlic (which isn’t really unpleasant tbh, just intense).

    And it’s not like a full bath is going to be significantly better at knocking down UTI risks than a wipe it washcloth and a light attention.

    Seriously, where did you get the idea that crotches stink that bad just walking around?

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    9 hours ago

    Find an east asian partner, Koreans especially have been studied to genetically have no body odor in their sweat gland compared to others

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    22 hours ago

    If your or your partner’s genitals are vomit-inducing half a day after your last shower and putting on fresh underwear in the morning, you might have a medical issue that needs checking out.

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      Also, condoms help. I’ve found having raw sex frequently makes the smell and taste a lot worse, a lot faster. I think it’s cause you get two very different genital smells mixing?

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    19 hours ago

    This is such a bizarre post… OP you sound terrified of other people and intimacy, therapy would probably be a huge help

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        I wouldn’t say terrified, but if the idea of having sex with somebody you like solicits such disgust and makes use terms like “tolerable” or “vomit inducing”, there’s definitely some issue with intimacy. It might also be lack of direct experience.

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    Lol. How did our ancestors manage to have sex before showers.

    Develop a bit more hygiene and libido.

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    Lol how to show your inexperience.

    When you are in love/lust with the right person trust me anything goes and there’s no issue.

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      @Parvus@lemmy.ml there is much that needs overriding.

      i spend 75-80% of my time; outside of work and sleep; inhabiting establishments where spontaneous/random sex are the primary attraction for people to come and (besides bath houses or some sex clubs) they’re the same as any other social gathering spots.

      it same social club like setting; same conversations/dancing/etc.; same thing all around except for the only difference being a dramatically more permissive attitude for public displays of sex.

      women are extremely rare in the places that i inhabit, but i do know for that fact that both men-only and coed spaces operate by almost identical rules when it comes to the sex hygiene – show up with in good hygiene and you must be experienced enough with both penetration and fellatio to know how to prepare yourself accordingly if you seek either one. (ie. you’re not welcome if you don’t know how to clean yourself enough to be public; or to be penetrated; or don’t know how to give head without vomiting – grown and fully functional experienced adults only).

      the only thing that’s different between these establishments and any other social clubs (again excluding bath houses and some sex clubs) is the entry price tag for most straight men.

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    This might be a reflection of your own hygiene. People are always surprised that I only shower once or twice a week and don’t wear deodorant because I look and smell so clean. Ive had orgiastic sex camped out in the woods where no one had access to bathrooms or showers and honestly it was no smellier or grosser than sexing people in a place with showers.

    Good diet and doing laundry properly goes a long way but honestly some people are just nasty as fuck with their genitals and no amount of access to running water will change this. There’s unwashed pussies and dicks you will put in your mouth that taste wonderful and there are people who’s junk will smell like yeast and rotten meat even though they just took a shower

    Sex is a little nasty anyways. If you’re not comfortable with other people’s taint you’re just not gonna be able to have as much sex. Not all taint is equal but it’s all taint

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      Absolutely this, there’s no way to be with more than one person and not have things end up sweaty and smelly even if you just showered … and I am so into that.

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      People are always surprised that I only shower once or twice a week and don’t wear deodorant because I look and smell so clean.

      Um. I don’t think they’re surprised because you look and smell so clean. If you only shower once or twice a week and don’t wear deodorant, you stink and you’re nose blind.