On work days, after your alarm goes off, how long do you remain in bed before you actually get up?
What do you find yourself doing between that first alert and actually getting up?
Do you have wake up rituals?
How long do you let it continue?
I typically wake up before the alarm
By what sorcery is such possible!
Get to bed early. Takes some trial and error to figure out how many hours you need, but once you’ve done that, you can wake up without an alarm.
PTSD in my case
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NEGATIVE latency!
Anywhere from 15 min to 2.5 hours after the alarm easily. The people ITT who wake up at the same time every day without an alarm y’all are crazy, if I didn’t have the alarm I’d never wake up on time, and whenever I’m off work for a week or when I had holidays off school as a kid my sleep schedule would just drift by 2-3 hours forward every day.
What’s “ITT”?
In this thread
My sleep pattern is very similar. Waking up consistently for work is a constant struggle and makes me long for the 10 months I took off a few years ago when I quit my job.
Yeah! There was a stretch of my life where I was practically entirely free from this shit as a teenager for like 3 months and it was so cash. I’d wake up to beautiful golden hour sunsets and go to sleep shit posting on 4chan and watching vinesauce Joel from back when he was funny at sunrise, until a few weeks later when it would reverse. The night was so quiet, seldom anyone around, I’d nick mom’s cigs and chill on the balcony in between rounds of battlefield 3 and rocking out or crying to some angsty ass music
Oh wow!
Are you able to get enough sleep? If you don’t, it’s perfectly normal that your body tries to sleep longer.
I almost always set my alarm as a security, but honestly, waking up by myself before the alarm is way better. The alarm is a lot more brutal, being jerked awake by a loud noise is pretty scary after all. I always feel more tired when I’ve been woken up by the alarm, compared to when I wake up naturally.
I mean, yeah? But if I sleep 8 hours every day, it’s not like I’m going to just naturally go to bed at the same time every day, usually I’ll go to sleep 2-4 hours later than the previous day and naturally wake up 2-4 hours later as well. If I don’t sleep that well I’ll then go to sleep earlier the next day. This is quite problematic because of 9-5 shit, but rhat’s why both sides of the sleep schedule have to be enforced.
I have two alarms. The first one is sort of a soft-wake up. Sometimes I’ll wake then and fuss around on my phone for a while, sometimes I’ll just shut it off and go back to sleep, but either way I can’t ignore it or it will start reading news headlines.
Second alarm is a half hour later, that one means it’s time to wake up, and I have 15 minutes to get out of bed if I want to keep my routine on pace, or I need to immediately get in the shower if I didn’t shower the night before.
I technically also then have a third alarm that assumes I’m dressed and had breakfast and everything, and that just means it’s time to pack my shit and get out the door. It mostly just keeps me from stressing about watching the clock.
In keeping with my routine I pretty much always arrive to work in a five minute window, and most of that variation is just how much time I spent petting the cat before I finally went out the door.
I kind of like this initial alarm idea. Sleep if you want. Play if you want. But the second alarm is business time!
Estimate based on right now: 30 min.
If I’m being responsible instead of doom-scrolling: 20 min tops.
If I was between rem cycles then immediately. If it caught me mid cycles im going to struggle to get up for about 30 minutes.
That’s a really good observation.
10 years ago, I’d snooze until the last moment and then rush to get ready on time. No idea why; just couldn’t force myself out of bed.
Today (including, literally, this morning) I’m awake at least 15-30 minutes before my alarm goes off. Wake up ritual is basically:
- Pee
- Put coffee on
- Let dogs outside
- Have coffee on the patio while the dogs do their business and play
- Answer any texts/messages that came in after I went to bed
- Check the news and weather
- If time allows, read a chapter of whatever book I’m on
- Start getting ready for work
I think the change was realizing those extra 20-30 minutes of sleep (if I could even get back to sleep at all) weren’t going to make me any more awake when I do have to get up. Then it was just a matter of figuring out how to use that time effectively.
Yep, I used to snooze to the end.
It’s so much easier to just get out of bed, and while I don’t rush to do things, I get to slowly wake up and take my time getting things started.
That’s now me time, to do as I wish. Now work is something I do second.
I wanna get right out of bed sooo bad. I do it when I think I am late. So… I should be able to any time… maybe. 😁 I mean no adrenaline when I know I am not late… so maybe not.
I usually wake up multiple times before my alarm goes off, so usually I call it at an hour before and just turn off my alarm, then stay in bed for about an hour until my alarm would have gone off, sometimes 30 minutes past that, then I finally get up.
I’m quitting drinking (heavily, for many many years) so some days I’ve been laying there awake for hours, and some days I JUST FELL BACK ASLEEP GODDAMMIT so maybe ten minutes. Occasionally I slept the whole ass night so I’m laying there for a half hour or more.
Well done on making a hard choice, and best of luck for the future 🙏
Thank you muchly! Got really into it starting with Covid, plateauing at maybe eight beers and six shots every day. Cut hard booze out, tapered beers down, and when I had my first day completely sober in maybe seven years, zero withdrawal symptoms. Same with the next day. And the next. I was shocked!
…the sleep, though. The sleep is ROUGH.
Oh mate, yeah the pandemic got a lot of people that way. Really insidious. Great work for tapering down and getting sober though, you should be very proud of yourself!
The sleep sucks. I had my last drink 122 days ago, and could barely sleep for a week or two. If I wasn’t anxious, I was just wired for no reason. It just felt so strange to get into bed, conscious and without the room spinning.
Waking up felt weird at first too, always expecting a hangover and a wave of hangxiety that never came – but so rewarding once you realise why.
I hope you can continue as long as you want to 🙏🤘
Oh thank you so much! I’m proud of you, that’s awesome!
My partner and I drank together, and are quitting together. MOSTLY quitting—we still have some drinks on Fridays and Saturdays at this point, but nothing like we used to. Sleep is slowly getting better on weekdays! Waking up DOES feel suuuper weird!
I used to wake up and feel okay until around 1-2PM, then the hangover would hit me. Maybe I was waking up still kinda drunk. Now on weekdays, around midday when I’d usually start feeling shitty, I just… keep… feeling good? What a strange feeling!
The biggest thing for me is driving. I only ever drank in the evenings, and never drove after I had a drop. When I was drinking heavily every night though, driving during the day would give me horrible anxiety and I had a panic attack twice on the highway. Now I can drive like a normal person and I feel normal doing it! MAGIC
Thank you mate! 🙏
Oh amazing, it’s good to have somebody there with you and it’s great that you’re both on the same page with your goals here!
Taking it down to a level that’s healthy for you is the ultimate goal, whether that’s drinking on the weekend (which is absolutely fine and not any less of an achievement) or going teetotal – we’re on the same journey as long as you’re trying!
The painful stages of sleep recovery are certainly miserable but once you’re back to where you need to be, it feels so good to be able to wake up actually refreshed! I haven’t slept well this week (for other reasons) until last night, and this morning was a genuine joy waking up and realising I didn’t feel like a bomb had gone off inside my head lol
Getting rid of that overarching anxiety makes such a huge difference too! It’s crazy how totally normal things suddenly feel novel and magical when you’re not putting your nervous system through all sorts of chemical topsy-turviness all the time, right?
I’m glad it’s working for you! 🥳
Thank you so much for the very sweet support! You’re wonderful. I hope your sleep, for whatever reason it’s bad, gets better soon as well!
Awh thanks! You too 🙏
Hot damn. Good on you for the work. But the sleep is rough. I hope you can find ways to address that.
Time will heal my sleep! Just gotta wait for my GABA to stabilize after all these years!
I am half awake at least 15 minutes before my alarm. As soon as I hear the first 3 notes I sit straight in bed and get up.
I hate being like this.
53 minutes, at time of writing.
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30 seconds? However long it takes to regain some level of consciousness again. I don’t see the point of staying in bed when you have to get up anyway. I also probably was already awake.
No rituals or anything. Just get up and get going. I never ever use my phone in bed for example.
The morning is the quietest part of the day. Whether in bed or not, it’s hard to give up the short amount of peace I have in the morning. 😁
I like mornings as well but I’ll rather spend it on my desk with a cup of coffee.
Depends on how sleep deprived I am. It was about 30 min today.
I’ve spent a couple years now working on being consistent with bedtimes and paying attention to how long I sleep on vacation, so I tend to wake up naturally. It is helped by having my blinds automated to open at the same time so sun shines in too.
If it’s a day I’ve had a drink the night before, it extends my time in bed, maybe 10-30 min, and more if it’s more than a few drinks.
The consistent bed time really helps me sleep and wake better.
I’m not sure I’ve ever experienced sleeping longer because of alcohol though. That’s interesting.
One or two drinks and I’m just lethargic and don’t want to get up.
If I went to bed drunk, I sleep fitfully and wake up, know I can’t really get rest, and get up, start the day, and have a nap later if I can. I avoid that.
If I’m doing well half an hour, if I’m doing crappy (typical) an hour. If I’m doing exceptionally poorly, like an hour and half
But I’m not currently working and have a sleep disorder that makes things funky. I need to get better about it though
depends, is it my first alarm or the 30th alarm?
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