it’s not that I don’t want to go out, there’s just nowhere to go for people in mid 30, at least around where I live. Also been suffering from social anxiety most of my life and only recently got it under control with meds which made me crave social interactions more than ever.
We don’t even beer any more. The downsides outweigh the upsides. Cuddle, watch movies, work on the house or garden, play Pokemon.
“Things introverts say after their 30th birthday”
Don’t get me wrong - I’m right there with you, but I see a lot of people in the age group that still want to go out.
Yeah. For me it was before my 30s even, but it’s less to do with a specific age and more to do with the fact that as an introvert you sooner or later realise pretending to be an extrovert isn’t worth the energy and effort.
This comment reflects such a weird mentality that I see sometimes, conflating being social with being extroverted. The two go hand in hand, but they are not the same. I love having time with myself reading or playing games, but I am consistently at my overall happiest when that time is punctuated with going out and socializing with friends or occasionally meeting new people. Never going out doesn’t make a person introverted, it just means they are antisocial.
Also, even as an introvert, I didn’t want to hang around the house while I was still living with my parents…
I’ve always been kind of a cheapskate. I’ve never wanted to go to a generic club.
But I will happily go to a party at someone’s house, or a hangout at the park, or even see a band I like playing live.
What if instead of a generic club it was hello kitty themed
Beg your pardon… After my 40 all I want is good weather and time to go running or cycling or maybe swimming in a lake.
No way would like to spend time drinking alcohol or watching shitty TV.
YMMV.
Fully agree on the I don’t want to go out, meaning social life, too much. Except going out cycling with my sport buddies, ofc
There’s too much good TV to waste time watching shitty TV.
I too, try not to watch shitty TV.
The good stuff however, I do watch that.
Mid thirties—still want to go out sometimes, also enjoy the above other times.
Yeah, I’ve realized that you can’t really put people as easily into the “introvert” and “extrovert” buckets, because it entirely depends on the day.
I can be a social butterfly one day, hyper productive the next, then want to watch reality TV and not leave the couch another. It just depends on the vibe of how I’m feeling
Same, and I actually always did in my 20s too but back then I was made to feel like I should be out partying and was lame or a loser if I wasn’t.
Now I’m in my 30s and I party when I want or I become a burrito when I want, I don’t really gaf if anyone wants to judge me for it.
I don’t have enough space, good enough acoustics, enough money, distance from my neighbours or appropriate zoning to let bands play in my house on a regular basis. So alas, I must leave my house once and a while.
Edit: And the people outside my house make way better tacos than I do, though this can be worked on.
I distinguish between “go out” and “go [some specific place]”. The first one implies just leaving home to be elsewhere, the second implies going someplace specific for a specific purpose.
I like going places, particular places with particular people for particular activities. I have many interests and enjoy exploring them (although all my cool stuff related to those interests is at my house anyway).
I don’t like “going out”, arbitrary places with arbitrary people for no particular reason. My time is limited and I have many interests, if I have free time I want to spend it intentionally.
Not ‘no longer’. Still once in a while.
This is true. Although, every once in a while I’ll convince the wife unit to go out and we both usually end the night with a sense of regret and a feeling that we both would have preferred to have just stayed home.
I wanna meet up with people and have a deep and pleasant chat, the rest I can compromise on. Honestly, I haven’t felt the allure of loud noises and bright lights in a decade…
When you’re disabled and going out you get tired of watching people avoid you. They see you, you smile they look away quickly when they see your arm crutches.
Had a lady talk to me for a good hour while I was sitting in a booth. We were having a good conversation getting to know each other. Then I go to get up and grab my Crutches from under the table. She awkwardly tells me she needs to use the restroom and i never see her again.
In your 20s you try, in your 30s you get depressed, in your 40s you accept.
I went to conventions all through my thirties! Star Trek, LOTR and Stargate, mostly.
Now I mostly travel, go to cute cafés, museums, etc. Pubs and clubs are too friggin’ noisy.
I still want to share those with other people, just without the randoms at bars, music clubs etc.
Kinda hard to meet people while avoiding public transport (it sucks, and especially on weekend evenings) if you don’t have a car and live too far apart for cycling, though. Driving a car and having a drink don’t mix well anyway …
Supposed to ‘go out’ last night.
Prepped and served ‘early-ish’ dinner for 5 pm Knackered at 6:15 pm. Seek 40 winks.Out of bed 4:30 am.
Repeat.
I vehemently disagree! I don’t drink and I hate tacos. I want to be at home with a cup of tea, a blanket, tv and chocolate
Hate tacos? I didn’t think that existed!
They take up valuable space sweet treats could be in.
OK, you win there. I do like my sweets treats.
But what about a Choco Taco?
Well tell you what, you can have all my tacos 🥰
Well well. Best offer I’ve had all day.
