What were you told about sex that turned out to be wrong? Did you use it? Did you figure it out later or already know it was wrong when they told you?
What were you told about sex that turned out to be wrong? Did you use it? Did you figure it out later or already know it was wrong when they told you?
It’s not exactly “advice” but something you’ll see on Reddit over and over is how difficult it is to make women orgasm and 80% of women don’t cum from penetration and you need to do a,b,c before even you can even hope to make a girl orgasm, I’m sure everyone has seen it. But from the women I’ve talked to, they’ve all seemed to say it’s not difficult at all to make them orgasm and multiple women have told me they cum plenty from just penetration🤷
It’s not a ‘two kinds of women’ thing. I couldn’t until after my last kid was born, something shifted with the 10-pounder and not all bad I guess. The first few times it happened it felt like a party trick.
Also I think the average time guys can last gets longer as they get older, so that helped too, and I learned for me it works better to start with fucking, if I get one from direct stimulation first I’m less likely to get off from the penetration.
So I guess I want to say DO NOT tell women you know better how their bodies work, and you will be fine. We are all different and also change through time.
I don’t see how’s that relevant to my reply? I didn’t mention anything about “two kinds of women” and I’m not telling women to do anything here 🤭 if you misclicked then no worries.
Just adding context. I do agree with you, don’t think 80% of women have trouble getting off.
That one is very subjective - its something around 40% of women can’t get off on penetration alone. Toys or other stimulus during does help quite a bit, again, depending on the woman, her preferences, and what her body reacts to.
If every woman you have ever slept with came on the first date, without a discussion/discovery phase, a good portion of those women are lying to you.
Yeah it’s not my personal experiences here but just discussions I’ve had with women. It wasn’t anything about first dates, just about sex in general and it was a common sentiment they don’t find it difficult achieving an orgasm, contrary to what ive heard so many times on reddit and elsewhere. And I’m not romantically involved with them so I don’t think they had a reason to lie to me but of course you never know 🤭
What’s your sample size for the women you’ve talked to about this?
Like 10. Of course it’s a small sample size 🤭 I’m not conducting a survey. Could be a coincidence, I’m just saying with how many stories I’ve heard online about the difficulty of making a woman cum, the women I’ve talked to didn’t really sing that song.
And did those women tend to have a good amount of sexual partners and/or in happy, committed relationships? Both of those would make it so that they have a better chance to experience orgasms from penetration alone since they’d either have more chances to get a other who knows what he’s doing or one who, after a while of getting to know her body and communicating and listening, would be able to get it done with her.
It really varies from person to person. Studies have shown that only about 16% of women can cum from penetration alone, but that number may be skewed by men who, in one way or another, don’t do what’s required to make it happen. Some women can cum but it takes a while, so they can do it with a dildo but not a man who has a time limit before he either cums or runs out of energy, or just haven’t been with a man who puts in the effort to get her aroused enough beforehand, or men who can adapt their stroke technique to her anatomy, or just don’t listen when she tells them what to do, or women who are socially conditioned against communicating their needs and think they need to just take whatever the man thinks is right. This makes it difficult to determine whether or not any given woman can’t cum at all from penetration alone or just hasn’t experienced the things necessary to make it happen.
This is why communication, active listening, and adapting your form to suit your partner are important to maximize pleasure for all parties involved.